When you engage in spanking play, do you take on a role with regard to control that is completely different from your regular vanilla life or is it just an extension of your usual personality? When chatting with a fellow spanking enthusiast a few weeks ago, we discussed how sometimes even the most powerful, take charge kind of person likes to give up all control and be submissive when it comes to spanking. It can be a huge relief to temporarily let someone else be in charge. Imagine a high-powered executive who carries a lot of responsibility and is usually in the position of telling others what to do. Receiving a spanking and being told what to do and how to behave for a little while may provide an incomparable stress relief.
For others, taking on an entirely different role may be uncomfortable. It may feel forced or even unsafe. Someone who is naturally more submissive in life may carry that through into the spanking world and not wish to top or be a tough bottom. And someone who likes to always be the one in control may delight in being the spanker or topping from the bottom.
I think my spanking personality is pretty much in line with my vanilla one – not entirely submissive but not all about being in control either and variable depending on the situation. However, I can completely understand the appeal of taking on a role that is the complete opposite of the usual one. The spanking play is one arena that allows for the ultimate fantasy in which you can take on just about any role you want. What about you? Do take on a different role or keep it similar to your normal personality as far as being in control?