Sorry for the delay in a new blog post. Been a bit hectic lately plus my mom is due for a visit in a few days and I’m scrambling to get ready. Not only do I need to tidy up the guest room and rid the house of dust bunnies, but I need to hide away any spanking related items and get a jump on all of my Punished Brats work. Can’t edit spanking content with Mom right next to me!
Today I have another Dear Amber topic and I need your help in providing advice in this matter.
Last year, you – via “Dear Amber ” – told me I was not too old to seek a spanking partner, and gave me some places where I could post ads. I did post some ads, with no success. So, my question is, what do women want ? I know you are a happily married woman, and not seeking a play partner, but – with me not being Mel Gibson in a movie – I repeat… what do women want ? What things should I include in an ad, not include, etc. Some suggestions would be most welcome.
Oh, if I had the answer to that one, I would be writing more than a spanking blog! I’d be publishing a guy’s guide to understanding women and be a zillionaire.
But seriously, this is a tough question to answer because every woman (like every man) is an individual. One may be seeking a daddy / daughter type play relationship and delight at mention of the search for a naughty little girl. Another may be totally turned off by the concept and click off as fast as possible. Some may want someone young, others want an older player. Some want just a discreet spanking only relationship, and others want spanking to be an aspect of a full committed relationship. Impossible to say what women as a whole want because everyone is different.
That said, I can share a few things that I like and a few things that are major turn offs for me personally. Not sure if that’s of any help, but it might be entertaining none the less.
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I appreciate when an ad or message is written well. I’m not going to be a grammar freak or anything, but messages that consist of “hey, wot r u in2?” are not standing out in my mind for the right reasons.
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I like to know a bit about the person posting the ad. Not just what they are seeking, but what is he like? What are his interests?
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If posting / sending a photo, I prefer to see a face rather than the collection of every giant, scary implement the guy owns. Oh, and please don’t post/send pictures of your man bits. Gives the wrong impression.
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Whatever the post or message, just make it genuine. It’s scary to put yourself out there, but you want the person that does end up responding favorably to do so because of you, not a false persona you create.
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Rejection or a lack of a response can be disappointing. Heck, it can be spirit killing. It may make you question, what am I doing wrong? Why doesn’t anyone like me? But finding a compatible play partner online is not always the easiest thing to do. That compatible person needs to be seeking at the same time as you, needs to be willing to answer an ad, needs to be searching on the same site as you, and be located within whatever geographical area you’re looking. It truly may have nothing to do with you or your approach. Give it time. Consider trying additional methods of meeting a playmate. Chat on forums which can be a great way to get to know others. Maybe attend a local party if there is one in your area. Network through spanking friends.
That’s my advice for whatever it’s worth. Dear Amber unfortunately cannot provide a fail proof method on this topic. Blog readers, please post your advice particularly if you have ever posted or responded to an online ad.