A new spanker on the scene must feel a bit like a new college graduate seeking employment – how do you get a spanking opportunity without experience and how do you get experience without spanking opportunities?
I mean, if you are the bottom and someone were to come up and say, “hi! I’ve never spanked anyone ever before. Would you mind if I take this large paddle and use your backside as target practice emulating my favorite pro spankers?” you’d probably run out of the room in terror. Ok, I doubt that exact scenario would ever take place, but still, a bottom must get a little nervous playing with a first time spanker especially if there is a possibility he or she could be a little overzealous or have bad aim.
And yet, the poor spanker has to start somewhere. Using the hand is always best as that’s the most controlled “implement” and also gives immediate physical feedback as to intensity. Trickier implements like a belt, strap, cane, or paddle can be practiced on a pillow, but that’s a far cry from the real deal. Pillows don’t move, have varying pain tolerances, and stand up and threaten to switch places when wrapped around the hip.
For you active spankers out there, how did you get started? Did you watch others (online or at a party) play first? Did you get in some pillow practice? Did you wing it? Did you have experience to some extent on the receiving end first to know what different spankings felt like? How did you approach a bottom for your first try at topping?
Can I possibly fire any more questions at you? Why, yes I can.
For bottoms, do you happily accept play offers from first time spankers or do you stick to only seasoned players? Do you feel a bit honored to be given their spanking virginity so to speak? Are you a bit nervous to be the first to submit? Do you feel free to offer feedback and correction or do you keep quiet and smile even if the untrained style is unpleasant or potentially hazardous?
For me as a bottom, I have had the pleasure of playing with a few first time spankers. I am indeed flattered when approached, but I am not about to take a spanking with say a large strap from someone that has never so much as delivered a handspanking before. I will certainly be nervous and offer gentle feedback as needed (say how it was for me personally if asked and alert the spanker to any safety concerns at any time if need be).
As a top, I was just as nervous about a first time experience as the bottom must have been. I started out small with hand only. I was fortunate to play with someone that had a high tolerance and encouraged me to play firmly. I then progressed to implements of varying intensity and design. I think it helped to know first hand (first bottomed) how each implement felt having been on the receiving end for quite a long time first. I know what I absolutely hate to receive (wrapping, smacking too high, paddles that land unevenly or on the edge, etc) and keep it in mind when I’m on the giving side of things.
Let me know your perspectives!