Ever feel this way? Ever get really fired up and ticked off over something someone posted on the Internet that you feel is completely wrong?
I admit that I sometimes do. Lately I’ve been getting pretty annoyed and loud on a few vanilla forums that pertain to a health advocacy group I am involved with. I have had to take a step back at times and remind myself to chill out and pick my battles. There are some things worth fighting for and some that I need to let go as there will always be differences in opinion.
Since there is such a huge online component to the spanking community, I think the same pertains to our fetish world. There are times when comments, opinions, or blatantly incorrect factual information is posted online that bother me, but I try to be selective in when or if I respond. I think I’m pretty “out there” in the spanking world and am definitely not a faceless, anonymous being behind a computer screen so when I post anything, I am mindful of what I write as I would be in any conversation done face to face with a mixed group. Trust me, there are times when I really wish I felt comfortable jumping all in on a discussion, but stop because I wonder how my input will be received and judged for various reasons.
I don’t hold my tongue though when certain lines are in my mind crossed. If someone posts telling me how I am supposedly really feeling or thinking, I’m going to speak up. For example, I’ve stated many times that I am not sexually aroused by spanking although I find spanking very wonderful and emotional on a different level. Please don’t tell me I really am becoming a quivering love puddle ripe with lust with every swat from every spanker I have ever played with and I must masturbate on the car ride home from shoots. Sorry, but noooooo! My body, my mind, not true, I’m certain.
Huge sweeping generalities towards specific sub-groups within the community that I find personally inaccurate? I may chime in. But that kind of goes back to my previous statement about needing to make a judgment call on how my input will be received.
Slander, nastygrams, and complete hijacking I try to quell without fueling any potential flamewars at least as far as my blog. What goes on on other blogs and sites is not really my place to say and again it’s a judgment call if there is something that pertains directly to me as I find at times it’s only an attempt to get a rise out of me and I’d rather not feed into it.
The smaller stuff, the pet peeves, I may commiserate over with a friend and then let go. Errrmmmm, repeatedly.
What brings you to speak up and voice your opinion on a matter? Are you fairly open in sharing your view or are you hesitant on an online forum? Hopefully this is a topic which you’ll feel comfortable in giving your opinion!