I received a great question from a blog reader:
How do you and other spankos feel about the whole notion of being required to address their disciplinarians as “Sir” or “Ma’am” during and immediately after a spanking? It’s very common on some sites like the Real Spankings suite of sites, less so on others, including Punished Brats. I can only recall seeing you address a disciplinarian as “Sir” during a spanking once, and it seemed a more spontaneous response than a required one.
I’m not opposed to addressing a disciplinarian by Sir or Ma’am though I do sometimes struggle with the term if I don’t have a natural connection to the spanker and don’t feel truly submissive to them. Then it is as difficult for me to say Sir as it is for me to take the physical portion of the punishment. Thankfully, this is rare. On the flip side, when I do have that connection, it only adds to a hot scene if I can say Sir or Ma’am to show my respect when feeling truly penitent.
I know of some bottoms that will only say Sir or Ma’am to the disciplinarian in their real lives and out of respect to that relationship, will not address anyone else by that title even in scripted scenes. And some I have chatted to have expressed very strong feelings that they will not address anyone as Sir ever within the context of spanking play.
We don’t require the use of Sir or Ma’am in every scene at Punished Brats. I do recall using the terms more than once though and I know when our writer/director Eric was still with us, he’d quite frequently have line suggestions with the terms. We definitely don’t use the terms as often as Real Spankings, but then our scenes tend to feature more bratting and backtalk prompting discipline rather than utmost respect at all times. 
For bottoms out there, how do you feel about addressing a spanker as Sir or Ma’am? For tops, do you often ask a spankee to address you as such? And for those that enjoy watching spanking videos, do prefer when the terms are used or is it not a required hot button for you?