Have you noticed that your limits and preferences have changed over time? Perhaps you’ve found a trusted play partner and tested out a most feared implement that was once off limits and now incorporated it into play on a semi-regular basis. Or perhaps you once allowed a certain style of play (positions, roles, implements, etc) and have grown tired or uncomfortable with it and now impose a limit you hadn’t before. People’s preferences change over time with all things simply because we are fickle creatures and in some cases because of positive or negative experiences.
For example, I used to allow swats to the backs of my thighs. I was very submissive and a tad naïve as well when I first entered the spanking world. If the top told me I was to receive 60 with the cane, 30 on the bottom, 30 on the thighs, so be it (yes, this was an actual punishment I received). Now, that isn’t ok with me. The thighs are off limit and there are very few spankers that I’d entrust with delivering 60 strokes!! I was not mistreated when I was given those 60 back along as I had not stated it was beyond my personal limits and they were given firmly but safely. However, I would not agree to the same today.
Some may question this pointing out that I used to play that way, so why isn’t it acceptable now? Well, as I said, people change, preferences change, limits change, and that’s just how it goes. I suppose the same could be applied to my willingness to top now. I used to cringe at the thought, but over time I grew more comfortable with trying it out and now I’ve found that I truly enjoy it in some circumstances. We all grow and change over time.
What about you? Have your preferences and limits changed over time?